How to Get There from Here

October 21, 2014

Warmth, inductive reasoning, appropriate monitoring, and clear communication. We easily identify these as the parenting behaviors associated with beneficial child outcomes that include positive cognitive functioning, social skills, moral development, and psychological adjustment.

We nod our heads recognizing these scientific “child outcomes” as the equivalent of our AP Month “flourishing children.”  We also recognize all of these benefits as parenting goals regardless of our style of parenting.

But how do we get there from here?  What’s the parenting analogue that allows us parents to be all of that enough of the time so that these child benefits are possible?  What are the names of the concrete resources that we parents need to have available so that we can provide all of that?

At other times, maybe we also need these resources to help extricate ourselves from situations that may involve our use, inadvertent or planned, of more or less hostility, rejection, and coercion.

We can get there from here with support.  Telling our stories can help unravel the stress.  Taking the breaks we know we need, yet consistently ignore, provide moments of respite.  Turning to a hobby, physical activity or just quiet for a brief period allows the spin cycle to slow.  How else do you replenish your resources?

How can you plan five minutes (or more) this week to do so?


Being Well

October 20, 2014

Well-being encompasses physical, psychological, cognitive, social, and economic aspects, but focus is often trained on the physical, cognitive, and economic indicators as markers of well-being.  What’s lost when we neglect the psychological, or emotional, and social aspects of well-being? What if the situation was flipped and more attention was given to the emotional and social aspects […]

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Unraveling Stress

October 19, 2014

We know so much about the harm of stress – what it does to us as well as our relationship with our children and others around us.  But what do we know about it’s unraveling?  How do we actually go about unraveling it? Maybe your list includes taking in a cup of warm tea when […]

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Cherishing You

October 18, 2014

It has been written recently that “Parenting is probably the most important public health issue facing our society.” We, at API, agree and take this seriously as we believe all parents should and do. But what if we invite another view of such seriousness? What if today we all just walked around appreciating parents everywhere and […]

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Who Cherishes You?

October 17, 2014

Take five minutes today and instead of going on Facebook, or using whatever your digital time filler / vice may be, write a list of 10 adults in your life who cherish you. These can be people from your past or present, people from all aspects of your life. Who are your champions?  Who makes […]

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Everyone needs Support

October 16, 2014

“These concepts of cherish and flourish are easy to write about, but for many parents knowing what to do and actually being able to do those things are a daily struggle. All parents everywhere need support, need to be cherished, to realize their full potential as parents and help their children flourish.” ~ Kathryn Abbott, […]

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October 15, 2014

flourish – Verb (of a person, animal, or other living organism) grow or develop in a healthy or vigorous way, especially as the result of a particularly favorable environment: Isn’t that what we all want for our children?  To grow or develop in a healthy or vigorous way?  What can we do to help them […]

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